PARENTING

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FULL TEXT: Attachment-Focused Parenting by Dan Hughes

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Motherhood: Facing and Finding Yourself, Lisa Marchiano, https://a.co/d/346Gj8P

* How the challenges of motherhood send you on journeys into your innermost source* Seeing the value of conflict with your child even while working to solve it* "The dark passage" of confronting and dispelling the energy of childhood wounds* "The thirteenth fairy"―how to recognize when we are resisting inconvenient or uncomfortable truths* Understanding how anger, rage, and aggression arise in parental relationships* Recognizing the ways that you have been taught to ignore your deepest instincts* How to navigate the inevitable periods of grief that accompany your child's many life changes* Why much of successful mothering requires surrendering your sense of control

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"The Parentified Child," article, Nivida Chandra

When parents cast a child into the role of mediator, friend and carer, the wounds are profound. But recovery is possible… https://aeon.co/essays/how-can-adults-undo-the-harm-of-being-parentified-as-children 

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RELATIONSHIPS

 

2014 Relationships in America Survey. The Austin Institute for theStudy of Family and Culture.

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Mark Leary, PhD, Duke University, "PEA, Oxytocin, and Other Chemicals of Passionate Love" https://www.thegreatcoursesdaily.com/pea-oxytocin-and-other-chemicals-of-passionate-love/

Passionate love is not the result of a twist of fate or a spiritual incident beyond our understanding. It is, like other psychological experiences, a result of chemicals and brain activity. Hormones and neurotransmitters play a significant role. Like other psychological experiences, not knowing the processes of love can lead to hurtful results.

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TRAUMA

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The Body Keeps Score, Bessel van der Kolk, MD, https://a.co/d/888o12I

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust.

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